Tips to Keep Romance Alive in A Relationship
Everyone loves the initial stages of a romance. It is full of passion, excitement, magic and more. Couples struggle to keep their hands off of each other, spend hours on the phone talking, and want to surprise and impress each other. There is a yearning to know more and more about the other person in this energetic phase. But a few years down the line, this scenario takes a turn. Dates become infrequent as you struggle to balance your career and your relationship. You drive yourself over the edge so often that you don't feel like talking anymore. The poems are replaced with grocery lists. You stop "feeling it" somehow.
Falling in love is easy- it is a hormonal response to someone who makes you feel special. You are attracted to anyone who ignites a passionate fire within you. But once the duties and responsibilities of real life sink in, sustaining the relationship starts feeling like a compulsion. The cute little things you used to do for each other now feel forced and unnecessary. You barely have enough time to breathe, let alone share a laugh or have a full conversation. Physical intimacy flies out of the window. You grow more and more distant while living under the same roof.
Is there no way to save a dying romance? Are all relationships doomed to fail in only a few years' time?
The answer is, No. Every relationship can be revived with a little effort from both parties. A few kind acts here and there can let your partner know that they are still as special to you as they were the first time you met. Let's see how you can do this.
Boredom is implicit. However, it can be avoided with ease. You just need to participate in activities that will interest you both. Think about all the common hobbies you share and plan an activity night based on that. It's a super fun way to rekindle your romance.
Sometimes, we get too comfortable with our partners and forget to say simple things like please and thank you. We think they don't notice, but they do. A stray compliment here and there will work wonders for your stoic relationship. Notice when your partner puts some effort into dressing up in all probability, they are doing it for you.
Talk. Yes, it's difficult to make time, and there are a million things you need to do, and there are bills left unpaid all that's there and will be there till the end of time. But if you don't talk and communicate your feelings with the love of your life, you run the risk of losing them forever. Just like you, your partner loves to be looked at and spoken to once in a while.
Try to make time for each other, no matter how difficult it gets. Share a meal together, or pick them up for lunch during office hours. Talk about things other than work and chores you hear enough of that already. The more time you spend together, the closer you two will get.
The important thing to remember is that no relationship remains the same forever. Life works its way upon us, and we become complacent about our relationships. However, if you follow the above-mentioned ways, the lovely bond that you and your partner share will strengthen and flourish.